It takes courage to be female. Everybody recognizes male courage--in battle, fighting fires, on the football field--but your average woman is actually bravery personified: She teams up with a partner (usually a man) and takes the huge risk of caring about him, caring for him, having his kids (or taking care of the ones he already has), without knowing what the future will bring.
Maybe he'll leave her for a younger woman after the years (and pregnancies) have taken their toll, and all her effort will have been for naught. When men invest their time and energy in something--a business, for instance--they expect to succeed and while their accomplishments may not end up being beyond their wildest dreams, their hard work most always pays off in a limited degree. Women get no such guarantee.
We recently heard from a 70-year-old relative of Whitley's who is a divorcee AND a widower. She and her new husband are coming to California and we may get a chance to see them when they're here. She writes, "Our California trip is a sentimental journey--revisiting the place where we met five years ago, seeing good friends and relatives of Bill as he approaches his 90th birthday."
I think it takes exceptional courage for a 70-year-old woman to marry a 90-year-old man. This particular lady has already lost a beloved husband to lung cancer and she surely realizes that her new husband is not likely to live past 5 years more, so their time together will be relatively short. Yet she decided to take the plunge anyway. She closed her eyes, jumped on the board, and dove right into the deep end of a new relationship.
That takes guts.
It reminds me of the lyrics to one of my favorite tunes, "September Song." by Kurt Weill, which goes like this: "Oh, its a long, long while from May to December, but the days grow short when you reach September. "When the autumn weather turns the leaves to flame, one hasn't got time for the waiting game. "Oh the days dwindle down to a precious few--September, November "And these few precious days I'll spend with you. These precious days I'll spend with you."